Things that I know about sex and intimacy

Things that I know about sex and intimacy

1. When a person takes you home after a good date (1st, 2nd, 3rd, and so on), and you want to feel how it is like to be closer to him physically, do it. It can be a one-night stand, it could be the beginning of something new, it could be anything – you decide and you define the nature of the sex. No one else.

2. When a man kisses you before he moves on to initiate sex, kiss him back. If he sucks at kissing (or rather, both of you lack that certain chemistry), it is not too late to back out. Yes, you may give in and enjoy the lifeless joy of having sympathy sex, but always remember – it is your choice. It is not his fault for trying his luck. It is your fault for letting it be. Take charge of your actions – stop playing the blame game.

3. Protection – insist on it. If he knocks you up, it is nobody’s fault – it is both your responsibilities, not just his or yours. Whether you decide to keep the baby or not, it is up to you, but to use it as a trump card to gain child support, is just a fucking cheap move. (Fuck you, you gold digger. Get a fucking job.) I recommend abortion if you are not ready for the responsibilities to come.

4. Just because a man holds your hand, it does not mean that he likes you. Sometimes, it is his way of showing interest, but do not think about the long-term shit like marriage, etc. It is just two hands touching – don’t overthink it.

5. There’s sex, fucking, making love, angry sex, etc. Learn to departmentalize those activities. Yes, fuck buddies are fuck buddies. Don’t think, “Oh, it may progress to something else.” No. Just no. Don’t waste your time and effort. Just take it as a stress relief. It is just sex.

6. Having a lot of sex partners does not make you a slut. I repeat – it does not. It is two consenting adults deciding to have sex. If you still feel the “shame” due to whatever reason, maybe you should consider re-thinking it before indulging in it. Sex is supposed to make you feel good, not the other way around.

7. Ladies, sex is not your trump card to extort money, gifts, dinners from men. Men, learn to know the difference between a woman, and an opportunist.

8. Men, do you know what women like? When you make her feel good in bed, instead of making her feel like a piece of meat. That means NO, absolute NO to shoving her head forcefully to your cock. If it was me you were doing that to, I would not hesitate to push you aside and leave the apartment. Fuck you.

9. Ladies,men, just because he or she tells you that he likes you, it does not mean that he truly likes you. Men have their games and so do women. They could be just saying that. Words are easy. Actions are not. Deal with it. If they like you, you can see it from their actions, not just words.

10. Men, and ladies, if you have a partner waiting at home, say so. If the woman/man still wants to be with you, then they're probably not the person you should be with and RESPECT. And you’re a jerk who deserves to be dropped in a pit of fire and be left to burn. Your girlfriend/boyfriend deserves better and if you have had enough of the relationship, have the respect and decency to leave the relationship before you consider being intimate with someone else. Don’t be an asshole.

11. Men and women, if you’re the kind who thinks being with a virgin is better, well I have got news for you – you’d better be a good teacher, have low expectations, or be a good learner of her body and learn to make her appreciate what she likes and what she doesn’t. Being inexperienced, she is discovering this with you. Don’t judge her for what she has come to like or not – after all, you are with her without experience. Like a baby out of a mother’s womb, she only probably learned about things from pornography. Pornography is make-believe. In real life, sex isn’t all 100% like that.  Not all women are subservient or bukkake loving tramps etc depicted in pornography.

12. (Personal thought) Men/women cheat on their spouses/partners because they are unhappy with many things, including sexual dissatisfaction. Know what you want, know what you like and dislike, and act accordingly. It is not your partner’s fault that you are stuck in an unhappy relationship. If you are not happy – leave. Do not deprive of your partner and yourself of finding someone that they truly should be with. Leave the relationship – you can do it – you are not a fucking tree.

13. Know yourself - do what makes you happy and TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR ACTIONS. If you can't do that, you have no idea about what being an adult is all about. And you are probably too immature to be fucking someone's brains out. Stick to your videogames.

14. And yes, go down on me, you motherfucker. If I can give you a blowjob, you can give me pleasure with your tongue. If you ever think it is "dirty" or whatever, do not expect me to put your limp dick in my dirty mouth.